Welcome to my Newsletter 2/27/08

"Grab a chance and you won't be sorry for a might-have-been."
~A. Ransome, Writer and Novelist~

If only "should haves" and "could haves" were franchises -- how rich many of us would be! How many times have you looked back and thought - "If only - " or "I wish I had -" Here's the good news - you have the power to eliminate the need for the majority of "should haves" ad "could haves" from your life by seizing the changes that come your way. Make sure you have your 3 Daily Action Items listed today and that they align with the goals you identified in your Before Snapshot of the Change Your Life Challenge. Now take a chance today and move forward toward your priorities. You would be amazed at what a difference one day can make. Practice this daily, and you will be astounded at the results.

Your turn:

Make sure you have created your 3 Daily Action Item List for the day. Then make sure these 3 Daily Action Items align with your most important personal goals. Commit to crossing off each item today.

Your affirmation:

Each day, I am guided by my priorities. I live in the present, moving toward my goals.

Readers share with Readers

A special 'Thank you!' to my friend Sonja Boehm from Switzerland for sending me the following video clip to share with my Readers.

When I watched this video clip, I thought about all the people that have so many gifts but always find excuses why they can't succeed.

If you have gifts and dreams that you didn't integrate into your life until now, watch this clip, and your life will change forever!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LnLVRQCjh8c



Life Improvement Tips

Creating Healthy Boundaries (Part 4 - End)


This week I will share 4 steps to help you create healthy boundaries.

Know yourself. Self-awareness is key to healthy boundaries. You need to know what you like and dislike - emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It is important to spend time assessing how you want to be treated. It is important to understand that you have a right to your own opinions and beliefs. You have a right to decide how you want to be touched and by whom.

Visualize your boundaries - You can use imagery to establish your boundaries. Imagine a bubble of light surrounding you completely. Imagine this bubble of light as your boundary. It helps keep you separate from others and protects you from unwanted intrusions. This bubble is very strong, yet it is semi-permeable. It will allow in the things and people that you choose and keep out anything harmful. Imagine this bubble surrounding you at all times. In your mind's eye picture someone yelling at you and you see their words bouncing right off your bubble. Now, imagine someone giving you a compliment and see their words passing right through the bubble into your heart.

Communicate your boundaries - It is your responsibility to let others know what your boundaries are. If someone crosses a line and violates a boundary of yours, you need to let them know. You need to be able to assert yourself and take care of your needs. You can't expect others to automatically know what your boundaries are. You are unique and have unique boundaries. It is important to be assertive and clear when you communicate your boundaries.
In the examples above, Jane could say to her boss, "I am not comfortable with you sharing this information with me. I would prefer if we stick to business." Harry could say to Frank, "I feel angry that you shared my private information with Joe. Please do not do that again." Rose could gently remove Bob's hand and say, "That feels uncomfortable, please do not touch me like that."

Enforce your boundaries. To claim your personal power and maintain your integrity, you need to be willing to protect yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually. If you express your boundaries and someone still violates them, it is your responsibility to issue consequences. You need to enforce your boundaries and be willing to take appropriate action even when a small violation has occurred.

If you do not enforce your boundaries, you give the message that it is ok to let someone violate your boundaries. If a person crosses a boundary and you do not let them know, they are likely to repeat the offense. In fact, their behavior and boundary violations may escalate. If you allow this to continue it then becomes more and more difficult to correct this issue.

The bottom line is that it is your responsibility to know and protect your boundaries.

Boundaries are not meant to keep people away from you. They are necessary so that you can develop healthy relationships. Boundaries are meant to preserve your health, safety, and integrity. The key is to develop strong, but flexible boundaries. Boundaries are driven by context - you area able to adjust your boundaries depending on the situation. When you learn to create and enforce healthy boundaries you are claiming your personal power and taking responsibility for your life..

~ Kirsten ~




Career Tips 101

Career Audit Part 4

Do you have a strategic career plan? Do you know where you want to be one year from now? How about 3, 5 and 10 years from now? Now is a great time of year to conduct a "career audit." A career audit is your opportunity to assess how your professional life is going. It allows you to identify what is going well and areas in which you'd like to adjust.
Decide what you want more of in your career. Then rank each item in order of importance and create a specific action plan on how you will achieve each one. Use this plan to develop your career strategy for the year.



Relationships 101

For Singles (Part 4 - End)

Continuing on the topic of Five Key Questions For Creating Your 2008 Attraction Plan for Dating, today we're discussing the last set of relationship questions, which include:
What one or two things will you try that you haven't yet tried in order to meet new people to date?

For instance, if you are not athletic, then I don't recommend you going to a sports-oriented groups. You may feel awkward there.

Who can you enlist to help you in your search for a life partner?

There is a whole list of people who can help you: friends, family, co-workers, leaders at your synagogue or church. Also, there are match-makers who help people find life partners for a fee.

It's also a known fact that married women love to fix people up. So who can you approach about setting you up on a date?

Bonus question: What will you commit to doing differently in 2008 that you haven't done this past year?

Do you need to change your attitude about dating from an uptight perspective to a more relaxed one? Are you willing to be more open and positive about dating? All this will make you more attractive to the opposite sex.

Perhaps you need to learn how to weed through suitors better and more quickly. And, how is your rejection tolerance? Are you willing to face your fears head on and be fearless about meeting new people to date this year? Last, give someone a second chance or a second date. You may be pleasantly surprised what's really there.

My hope is that these relationship questions and dating advice for women and men have pushed you to think outside your box about dating, causing you to consider trying out a new approach or new ways to meet people.

When you take yourself outside your comfort zone and stay true to yourself, you will attract the right person to you!

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